Why is it so hard to talk about death and dying?
Well what a couple of months it’s been!!
In February the weather might have been grey but my life was full of colour. I started to overcome my fear of putting posts on social media and I can honestly say I’m loving it. The majority of my posts focus on elements of my role although I try to tackle this in a lighthearted way, which suits where it’s being posted. I am resharing a post here as this might be a more appropriate way in which to raise the subject.
Thinking about death and dying isn’t something which comes naturally to the British. This post is from 23rd February to 1st March 2026 when it was National Funeral Planning Week.
“Whilst on holiday recently in Germany, a gentleman who I got into conversation with, told me he's like Amazing Grace played on the bagpipes at his funeral.
Since then I have reflected on why he chose to do this. Was it because I was a stranger he'd never see again?
Or was it that culturally talking about death isn't quite as taboo as it is here in the UK?
Here's what I do know?
As a non-religious celebrant I often work with families who wish they knew what a loved one had wanted.
Planning a funeral isn't about being morbid or tempting fate. We plan for other life events like weddings and birthdays, so why not our funeral? Instead of thinking of it negatively I like to put a spin on it as a celebration of life.
Funeral planning isn't about dwelling on death.
It's about clarity.
It's about voice.
It's about easing the decision making at a time when people are emotionally overwhelmed by grief.
If you're not ready for a full conversation you could help by doing these easier things.Write down three words that describe how you'd like to be remembered.
Write down three to four pieces of music / poems or readings you'd like included in your celebration of life.
Let your loved ones know if you want a traditional tone or a more light hearted ceremony.
That's not morbid. It's thoughtful.
This act of kindness could make the world of difference one day.”
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March saw this topic explored further when I was invited to join Caroline Young from acalmstrength@gmail.com to discuss a service which I am working on being able to provide. I am currently completing a Grief Support Coach course in order to better support my clients at a time when they are at their most vulnerable. If you’d like to listen to our conversation click on the links below.
Here’s the link to the Apple episode
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/a-calm-strength/id1859745177?i=1000757434266
And here’s the link to the Spotify episode
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Thg21isvGoha5Tap3yAP9?si=NdSzYt5CS22FWOEo9_f4mw
I’m looking forward to catching up with Caroline again in the future to do other podcasts about the other services/ ceremonies which I provide.
That’s all for now. Looking forward to sharing more news from the next couple of months with you soon.